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Become a More Attractive Person

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 20 Oct 2012 | comments*Discuss
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When people think of the concept of how to be a more attractive person, most people will, on first thoughts, equate attraction to physical appearance. However, being attractive is not really that simple.

Take the celebrity world, for example. No doubt we’ll have all had debates with friends about which celebrities are attractive and most of the time, people will come up with very different opinions. When we’re making these judgements, our opinions are superficially made solely on the celebrity’s physical appearance or, at best, on the physical appearance plus what bit of information we have gleaned from interviews we may have seen of them.

To an extent, this is initially how most of us will often form judgements about attraction in our everyday lives. We’ll ‘like the look’ of somebody. It might be their facial features, their hair, the way they’re dressed but, more often than not, these initial observations are pretty superficial.

In the ‘real world’ most of us will also accept that once you get to know a person better, there has to be much more beneath the superficial ‘façade’ of a person, if we’re going to ultimately think of them as being attractive.

How to be a more attractive person, therefore, is not just about looks. Granted, paying attention to how you look and trying to make the most of yourself will serve you well but there are many other aspects to attraction that you need to be aware of.


How to be a more attractive person often starts with displaying confidence. People naturally gravitate towards those who feel comfortable with themselves, know who they are and like themselves. This doesn’t mean being arrogant or big headed. Confidence is exuded in the way in which people engage with others in a positive fashion.

If a person is lacking in confidence and is constantly putting themselves down, this can become tiresome to others and will lessen their appeal. Therefore, try to tap into those things in your life which tend to make you feel confident about yourself.

Define what you have to offer others. Once you’ve identified those areas which make you unique, interesting and which give you a sense of feeling worthwhile with something to offer the world and other people, others will sense this. You'll be more attractive and others will be drawn towards trying to get to know you better.


Attractive qualities in people are often tied into passion. If your life has meaning and a purpose as opposed to simply allowing yourself to become a ‘drifter’, it’s far more attractive to others. So, whether it’s your career, a hobby or something else that fires your passion, doing things that give you happiness and joy will make you come across as a far more attractive person.


How to be a more attractive person is almost impossible if your communication skills are poor. Good conversationalists don’t need to be extroverts. However, by sharing your passions with others and, even more importantly, being a good listener and showing a genuine interest in what others have to say, this is a great way to be more attractive. Effective listening skills can never be underestimated when it comes to how to be a more attractive person.

Having a Positive Outlook On Life

A smile costs nothing and will usually always brighten up someone’s day. So, taking that further into having a positive outlook on life even when things may not always be going your way is important if you want to become attractive. It can be emotionally draining to sit and listen to people who drone on and on about the problems they’re having or those who are plain doom mongers. It’s certainly true that the energy you put out in life is the energy you get back. Take a look around you next time you’re out. You’ll often see miserable people congregating together whilst in the other corner, people will be all laughing and joking. Then ask yourself… in which group would you like to be? In other words, how to be a more attractive person relies upon you having a positive attitude to life.

Therefore, whilst it’s important to make the best of ourselves in terms of how we look in order that we feel good about ourselves, remember that to be attractive takes far more than that but it is something we can all achieve if we put our minds to it.

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